6 Feminist Principles Your Relationship Needs


  1. Everything in a relationship doesn’t need to be “equal”. There no keeping score. There’s no required reciprocity. Reciprocity itself is incredibly important, but it should be selflessly motivated. Not prompted based on guilt of what the other person has previously done or in anticipation of what they may do.
  2. BDSM, when practiced correctly, can absolutely co-exist with feminism. There are several articles that fully flesh this out. Like this one. And this one. And this one. And this one.
  3. It doesn’t need to be between only two people. Your relationship may be monogamous, open, polyamorous, start one way and merge into another, etc. There are no rules to how you can or cannot be in love with one or many people. As long as everyone involved is happy and consenting feel free to rage and explore the uniqueness of your relationship(s).
  4. Consent is an on-going conversation. In a relationship for five minutes, five months, five years, or five decades, you still need to discuss consent. It doesn’t need to be a stiff, stale conversation to confirm consent. Here are 35 sexy ways to check in and ask for consent. Remember, it’s not a hurdle standing between you and sex and it’s not just something for women in heterosexual relationships. There is no such thing as “sex without consent”, there is “sex” and there is “rape”. Consent is for all parties, at all times.
  5. There doesn’t need to be a “dominant” and “submissive” in the relationship.The question: “Who wears the pants in your relationship” implies that one person is the dominant energy in the relationship while the other is following. This may be the case in some instances, but is not a universal truth of all relationships.
  6. Continuing that thought, there doesn’t need to be a “masculine” and “feminine” energy in the relationship. This is true for homosexual and heterosexual relationships. Two women can be in a homosexual relationship and both identify as “feminine”, or both as “masculine”, or both as neither, or one of each.


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